Control

Hi people, I'm still recouperating from this weekend of spiritual rejuvenation. I got a lot of compliments on my hair. Mostly from 30ish and 40ish women. They all shared things in common ... they all had perms, they all had husbands ord fiancees that didn't want them to go natural. My reaction was "Thank you" and "What!" Are men really stopping their wives and girlfriends from embracing their true selves? Their inner natural goddess/queens? Really? So I decided to meld this with a blogging suggestion. The topic suggested is Do men really have that much control over our lives? Hmmm. I looked at myself through their eyes then...they saw a young carefree woman who is able to grow her hair in the style of her choice without consulting any man. They saw me and thought, "wow, she's single and free to do lots of things she wants". I know this because one lady actually said that. It made me look at myself in a new light for a few minutes...I felt freedom. But then I saw her walk away holding her fiancee's hand. Womp, womp, womp. The grass is always greener...ha.

Let's be honest ladies, yes, we dress for ourselves but we dress to get/keep attention from males also. So when you know what your man likes you try to please him as long as you can stand it. This applies to clothing, makeup, shoes, perfume and HAIR. But come on women! You know you want to experiment and try new things too. Keep it fresh. Your guy may not know that he likes it until you try it. Do you think you will lose this man if you tweaked your physical appearance to something you would enjoy more? If so, maybe you don't need him. If you are married, pshaw, he ain't going nowhere because you cut your perm out! If anything he'll be glad that you shaved some minutes off your bathroom/prep time.

But back to the REAL issue, do men really control that much of our lives? My coworker originally suggested that I talk about something else besides men, because she just couldn't believe that men control us that much that we have to talk about them ALL the time. Of course!! That's what single women do (she knows this, she's probably going to herself, "I know".) Well, I hate to say this, but the people that don't talk about men all the time are men (and they still talk about each other a good bit). BUMMER. How do you feel about this? Speak to me.

P.S. Today I used a suggested topic. I really enjoy writing about what yall want to hear, and the thing is that, if you comment you will be giving me a response but you will also give the person who suggested this question or topic your highly valued opinion, advice etc. So speak out, don't bottle it up.