Ooooh this takes me back...

I'm being such a GIRL right now. Huff! Music is so much a part of my life I can hear a cd and instantly remember what I was doing when I first heard a song or think back to a time in my life when I wore that cd out. I just took Common's (yummy) Finding Forever for a spin. I instantly thought of this nice young man that I spent a few hours talking to while this cd was on. Sigh, he sure was sweet. haha. Do yall have anything like that? I know when I hear Matchbox 20's Yourself or Someone Like You I think about Tess of the D'urbervilles. I read that book to that cd. Crap! Forgive me for my randomness today. My mind is all over the place.
I've been given advice from different sources now about how I should go about my current situation. Some people (very nice people) say to be myself and I can't go wrong. These very nice people must not know me that well. As an alternative I've been told to take on another persona, one that is more outgoing or self-assured. I've done that before, but I can't get back in the "place" that allowed me to become this other person that I affectionately named Melinda. That's right I named her. To me ME-Linda sounds self assured...like I'm Pretty...that's what it translates to in Spanish at least. Shrug. How it happened was I went to this party and didn't know anyone there except the person I rode to the party with. I determined that I wouldn't be a wallflower. So I danced, met people, got numbers (all the wrong numbers) and generally had an all around BALL. I made some acquaintances and some friends that night. But what led me to do that in the first place...a awkwardly painful breakup. I had to prove to myself that I was still alive and a social butterfly...fun! I'm not in that "place" anymore and have no desire to go back there ever...but I would like to recall Melinda from time to time. What to do?
I guess go with plan A: being myself. Doesn't work everytime but hey.